International Women’s Day
International Women’s Day
Happy International Women’s Day!
I am on a journey to not only empower myself but my daughter as well. I want her to know her value and worth in a male dominated society. As woman and a minority, she will be met with many obstacle and barriers throughout her life. We know this struggle to well. But I want to be able to empower her and equip her with all the resources and tools necessary to be able to become a fighter, a dreamer, a doer, and an inspiration for others. Social justice is part of my being. It is what has allowed me to have this social consciousness and support causes that are dear to me including advocating for women’s empowerment.
I recently came upon an article about a mama’s self-confidence and how this has an impact on their own daughters. This was an interesting concept for me. All along I thought that If I help build up my daughter’s resiliency, then she will grow up to be a strong confident women. However, there is an added element to how a mom’s self-confidence affects our own daughters.
It is a known fact that children mirror their parent’s behavior. How you act, behave, and who look up to impact your own child. I want to display images of strong women for my daughter that look like her including women in our own family and women that she can look up to in the media and in life. In her room, I have a photo of Frida Kahlo. This woman epitomizes strength, creativity, and breaking barriers. I also have a children’s book about Selena. As a little baby, she loves music. Every time I put music of Selena, she likes to sing along and dance to it. I want her to know that there are women in music that look like her and feel proud of her ethnicity.
We’ve all hear the positive effects of affirmations. As mamas, we also need to uses these on us and be less critical of ourselves. We need to be kind and uplift to ourselves more. This positive behavior will encourage your own daughter to have healthy thoughts and help mirror positive behavior. This is a good practice not only to encourage your little one’s self-esteem but also you as a mama. Motherhood is difficult and positive affirmations help us be kind to ourselves.
Like any other adult, children also want to be treated with respect and felt like they matter. A good way to empower your daughter is by praising her for good behavior and acknowledging when she speaks. Give her choices so that she know that her opinions and voice matters. Allow her to express her feeling and acknowledge them as valid and important.
Nourishing the Self
As children are growing, they become more aware of themselves. Help nourish their sense of self by giving them agency to have responsibility, make mistakes, allow them to feel capable to do anything and always encourage opportunities where they can thrive. If they feel good about themselves, they will be more emotionally
Spending quality time with your daughter allows her also build her self-worth. It allows her feel loved and cared for. Setting aside one-on-one time with your daughter helps build her self-esteem and strong sense of self. I am trying to be more intentional about spending quality time with my daughter where our focus is about each other. I call these our little dates. I will usually take my daughter out to each lunch and then take her to the park or do some shopping around.
I hope these tips help you in your journey to empower not only yourself but your daughters, children, and other women in your life.
¡Viva la Mujer!