Cafecito Con Mamá
Cafecito Con Mamá
“Madre: La palabra más bella pronunciada por el ser humano.” Kahlil Gibran
Over the past few months, I have been thinking a lot about the direction I want to take my blog and how I want to grow it. My goal is for this blog to be a resource for other mamas to have the best journey and inspire motherhood in a positive way, to embrace culture, create family memories, and to empower their little ones. I want to use this as a vehicle to evolve as a mom, as a wife and especially as a woman. I want to be able to empower other mamas. There is value in learning through shared experiences. My anthropologist side knows this too well. We learn through storytelling, through documenting the stories of others, through sharing their experiences for others to learn from.
I will be starting a new mama series, Cafecito con Mamá, that focuses on highlighting mamas and their experiences through motherhood, as well as sharing some tips on any issues related to mothers and children, and empowering mothers to be their best all within a cultural context. Latina’s have unique life stories, experiences, and backgrounds. I want to be able to relate this information to other Latina mamas like myself.
As a first time mama, I was that mom looking through blogs, Instagram, and reaching out to my mama friends for advice. I hope that this blog can help other mamas through their journey. Experiencing motherhood is such an amazing, life-changing, inspiring blessing. My life goal is to experience all aspects of motherhood, learning from the negative moments, embracing the joys, and growing from my mistakes, and celebrating milestones.
To kick off this blog series, here is a little bit about my journey into motherhood.
1. How old were you when you had your first child?
My husband and I decided to start trying for a family when I turned 30 years old. Coming from a Latino family, this is old! But I was all about finishing my education in a world where I was though of a statistic. I wanted to pursue a higher education and have a career. Once I turned 30, I knew that I was more then ready to start a family.
2. Did you imagine that you would be a mom at the age that you became a mom?
I would have loved to have children at a younger age but having my daughter at 30 years old helped me appreciate my child and not take motherhood for granted. I see the importance of being a present mom and investing in her learning.
3. Would you have handled childbirth differently if you could re-do it?
Childbirth is such an amazing and life changing experience. I spent 27 hours in labor and if I could I would re-do it to include more of a holistic and natural home birth. This was my initial goal with my daughter but I was categorized as a high risk pregnancy. (Read more about my daughter’s birth story.) I found solace being at the hospital knowing that if something went wrong, medical help would be readily available.
4. What would be your advice for someone who is about to have a baby?
My advice for a new time mommy would be to eat as healthy as possible. This will pay off during childbirth, the recover process, and for your own child. Also, I prepared my self for pregnancy but did not prepare to take care of a new born. I was the first one in my family to have a baby so I had no knowledge to go based off of. This is where building a mama tribe is important. Ask as many questions as you can and do not be afraid to ask for help.
5. What has been the hardest thing about being a mom?
The hardest thing for me is to as a mama is knowing if I am raising my daughter correctly and equipping her with all the right tools to grow up to be an amazing woman. I am constantly in search for strategies that can help me as a mama to better raise my daughter. I want to raised her to be a compassionate, independent, happy, courageous, and content child. This is part of the mission of this blog, to empower my daughter and empower other mamas.
6. What has been the most rewarding thing about being a mom?
It truly is those special moments when I look at my daughter and I am captivated by her charm and magic. After wanting a baby for so long, she is my thriving light. She give me hope for the future and allows me to dream big for her. I am amazed at how smart she is and how fast she learns new things every day.
7. What was the most surprising thing you discovered about being a mom?
I have discover that a mama needs a lot of patience! There are times when I just want to give up but I take a few breathes and find that patience that I need to discipline my daughter. This has helped me the most in dealing with tantrums. I will usually kneel down to her level and quietly talk to her without her letting her feel my stress.
8. Where would you like your child to be in 10 years?
I would love for my daughter to be a happy 10 year old girl with siblings running around. I want her to have a happy childhood with the possibility to dream about what she would love to be when she grows up. I want to expose her to activities that allows her to find her talents.
9. What is something that having a child has taught you?
Having a child has taught me to be a strong and resilient woman. I can be a mama and still go after my own dreams. I want my daughter to grow up and be proud of the woman and mama I am. I want to be a good role model of her.
10. Describe your child in a single sentence?
Magic! She has such a personality that sometimes I wish I was more like her.
I hope you get inspired by this mama series every Monday!